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Unlock Your Life | A Pep Talk for the Helpers and Healers

Ep #45: A Pep Talk for the Helpers and Healers

Unlock Your Life | A Pep Talk for the Helpers and HealersOne of the best parts of my vocation is that I can see the number of people that I am able to impact and influence. I don’t change anyone’s life, but I can paint a picture and help people to see a possibility. And the same is true for you.

As women, when we think about our careers and how we want to contribute to the world, we tend to land on helping professions. But what we don’t realize is how, even as just one person, we have the power to completely change the trajectory of the lives of so many people.

In this episode, I’m sharing an inspiring story of how one woman changed the course of history for untold numbers of people. This is a pep talk for all the helpers and healers out there, and I’m reminding you that your work makes a difference in the world and will continue to create a ripple effect.

If you would like some help with figuring out how to listen to your intuition and show up and serve in the world, I’d love to help! I can help you create a vision for a life that you absolutely love living. Click here to arrange a session with me.

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What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • The impact that watching someone make a difference in people’s lives had on me.
  • How to believe you can change your life and the lives of others.
  • What it requires to be that one person for somebody else.
  • The things we decide to take a stand on and how doing so causes an enormous ripple effect.
  • Why freedom is a decision you can make each and every day.

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This month we’re talking about vocation, vocare, your calling. If you are a person who has devoted your life to helping or healing, this week’s episode is for you. This is a pep talk for the helpers, and a reminder of the power of one. Let’s get going.

Welcome to the Unlock Your Life podcast, a podcast for highly successful visionary women who want more out of life. If you feel that ache of unfulfillment in your soul, you’re in the right place sis. Join life mastery consultant Lori A. Harris as she teaches you how to stop living for others and finally put yourself first. Let’s dive into today’s show.

When I was 14, I decided I wanted to be a lawyer. At the time, this was in the mid-70s. I looked around, and I saw that there were a few things that women were expected or allowed to do in the professional arena. You could be a nurse, or secretary, a teacher, or a social worker. When I was 14, I went to court with a group of very young women who were new lawyers, and it transformed me. I tell this story frequently.

I just want to remind you that each one of those careers are helping professions. Frequently women when we think about our career and how we want to contribute to the world, we often land on helping professions. I know that the people in my audience, the people who love to listen to this podcast, are people who are givers, who love to help.

Oftentimes, we helpers, we healers, we can suffer from burnout. We can keep going and going and going to the point where there’s nothing left to give. But I want to remind you of how special you are and how much your work matters. And how your work will continue to ripple, and how you are already expanding your ripple in the world.

I’m going to tell you the story of one person. One person who was a social worker who changed the course of history for untold numbers of people. We can’t really even count the number of people that this woman helped. I want to remind you that your work makes that kind of difference in the world. This is the story of Dorothy Bailey.

Dorothy Bailey was a young woman in the mid-50s who was a social worker. She heard about a kid in the neighborhood, and she decided to go about and make it her business to figure out what the heck is going on with this kid. See what it happened was this little girl’s mother had died when she was 10. It so happened that when the girl came back to school after her mother’s death, it was time for national testing.

The kid tested, and surprise and shock and awe, she didn’t do well on the test that week. As a result of her testing, they took that child and they put her in a class that at the time was called EMR—educationally mentally retarded. So this kid was placed in the EMR class, and she clearly didn’t belong there. She could do every task that was asked of her. She started tutoring the other kids in the class, and she frequently was bored by the task that was required of her.

The teacher not knowing what to do with this very smart young girl told her you can go to library. So the kid went to the library. When she had exhausted all the books in her school library, teacher, not knowing what to do with very bright child in the EMR class, said, “I can get you a bus pass and a library card.” So she gave this child a bus pass and a library card and gave her permission to go down to the city library. So the kid was going there, and kind of educating herself for a period of time.

Dorothy Bailey heard about this. She says, “That sounds crazy.” So she rescued this child. She figured out rather than have the child exhaust all the books in the school library and all the books in the local library, how about we put her back in a class where she belongs and deal with the trauma that this child has experienced with losing her mom at such a tender age.

Now, Dorothy Bailey ended up being in this young child’s life for her entire life, all of Dorothy Bailey’s life. Dorothy Bailey stayed with this young woman and helped her to matriculate through life. So this kid went on to be an excellent student, not only an elementary, middle school, but also in high school.

When it came time for the kid to make a decision about what was next for her, the kid thought  I’ll do what everyone else does. I’ll get a job. Dorothy Bailey said, “No, you won’t. You will go to college.” Then she says, “Okay, I’ll go to the local community college.”

Dorothy Bailey said, “No, you will not go to the local community college. You will go away to college because I want you to have the experience of an expanded vision of your life. If you stay here, you will get bogged down in the task of caring for your dad and being a primary caretaker for your father who’s unable to work. So I want you to go to college, and I have a vision that I think is possible for you to go.”

Young kid, let’s call her Elizabeth, says, “Oh, I don’t think I can do that. My brothers need me. They need me here to help with my dad.” So Dorothy Bailey took it upon herself to talk to the eldest brother and explain to him how much potential Elizabeth had and told her that she really, really believed that Elizabeth could do well at local college.

So Elizabeth did end up going to school. Dorothy Bailey was the support person for Elizabeth all through college. She would give her a couple of dollars a month for supplies, for pantyhose so she can when wear pantyhose to vesper and look like a proper young woman and helped Elizabeth do well all through college. So Elizabeth did graduate from college, and she ended up being a teacher.

So already we know that Dorothy Bailey has impacted Elizabeth slide such that now Elizabeth is helping others by being a teacher, but she didn’t stop there. Elizabeth went on to become a lawyer. As a lawyer, Elizabeth helped thousands and thousands of people in her career that’s expanded over 30 years working as a defense attorney. But she didn’t stop there.

Then Elizabeth went on to be a judge. Her work continues to help people from the bench. She has a very good relationship with the people that appear before her. She inspires people to believe that they can make a difference in their lives, and they actually look forward to coming to her court. It’s actually a very unusual situation, and that’s what happened with Elizabeth.

But why does it matter for me in my life? Well, that Elizabeth that I’m speaking of is my aunt, Hattie Elizabeth Harris. I was that 14 year old who saw Hattie Elizabeth Harris go into a courtroom with all their young friends dealing with they did. It inspired me and allowed me to see her making a difference in people’s lives.

I don’t know how I can express to you the kind of relationship that people have, the potential they have when you’re working closely with an attorney, but it really can change the trajectory of one’s life. I’ve seen it over and over and over again.

So when I think about Dorothy Bailey, I’m so grateful to her. Because her work way back in the mid-50s rippled and changed so many people’s lives, people that we can’t even count and account for. So when Mrs. Bailey decided to come in and take a stand and advocate for this young kid who clearly didn’t belong in a class known as EMR and fight the system and get that kid out. Then stayed with that kid throughout her life, and made a difference in her life, she didn’t just change that one kid’s life. She changed my life.

In my life getting better and being expanded and having a bigger vision, I can see the number of people that I’m able to impact and influence. I don’t change anyone’s life, but I am able to paint a picture and help people to see a possibility.

Now, that happened when I was working as a lawyer. It happened when I was working with incarcerated youth, showing them a possibility of what could happen if they just had the audacity to believe that they could change their lives. For each kid who bought it, who decided to take a stand, then that kid has the potential to have an impact within their own family structure, within their neighborhoods and communities. That kid can continue to ripple, but it all started back in 1955/56 with Mrs. Bailey making a decision to take a stand.

So I want to remind you that this is a pep talk for helpers. If you are wondering if your work is even having an impact, it is. If you’re wondering if what you do on a day to day basis even matters, it does. Because when one person believes and one person takes a stand, what happens is it causes an avalanche, a ripple effect. You get a little bit of a momentum going, a little bit of a snowball going just by you being you.

So when we have to think about what are our core values? What do we believe in? That’s one of the things that we will decide to take a stand on, to believe, and to be the person who is in those particular instances that give us an opportunity to serve.

So for me, what are my core values? I believe in freedom. I believe in liberation. I believe in love. I believe in grace. With those four core principles, I have decided to live my life. I have decided to live from a place of love and constant and continual grace and forgiveness. It’s not an easy road to take. It’s very, very difficult. Because when you decide to do that then opportunities to do that come up. It can be challenging but can be also rewarding as well.

This is a pep talk for the healers. This is a pep talk for the helpers. You are one such person who is making a difference in people’s lives. So when you feel discouraged, I want you to do for yourself which you are apt to do for others. Don’t argue for your limitations. Don’t fight for your misgivings and shortcomings. Believe just enough, just a little bit, just a little bit to allow yourself to take just one little, tiny step. Take one tiny inchworm move, and with that, you will start to build momentum. You will start to build a movement.

There have been times in my life as a community activist, as an organizer, as a lawyer, as an advocate that I have been engaged in a constant life of fighting. But I have decided to live my life from love, grace, and build a life of liberation and freedom. Love and grace will take me just as far and farther than any fight ever could. I want to invite you to join me with that journey.

So never, ever underestimate the power of one. The power of one person deciding to be a partner in believing for one other person. With those two people, they can get so much done. If you want to be that one person, it doesn’t require you to be perfect. What it does require is for you to show up. To show up and be consistent. To be honest and to be there, to be present. You don’t have to be perfect, but you do have to show up.

When you feel like you’re overwhelmed, you can share that. When you feel like you don’t know quite what to do, you can share that. But continue to share from a place of love and desire for the best for all concerned.

So remember, one tiny little inchworm move chained together with another and another and another gain momentum. You don’t have to know all of the answers, but you can take action on the one step that has been revealed to you. As the great leader, activist, and all around world inspirer tells us, Nelson Mandela says, “There’s no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we reach the mountaintop of our desires.”

What are those the desires? We all want to be free. Freedom is the decision that you make each and every day, a decision to live from a place of freedom each and every day. Be free. Do the things that free people do in the life that you have decided for yourself.

This is episode 45 of the Unlock Your Life podcast. I’ve really enjoyed talking with you this week. This has been a pep talk for the helpers. I hope that you remember, as a helper, you are helping this one person. In this one person, that act of grace will ripple so far in so wide you cannot imagine the number of people you are impacting. Keep going. Your life matters, and we’re so grateful that you are here.

If you’ve enjoyed this episode of the Unlock Your Life podcast, I hope you will take a moment to stop, review, and rate the show. You can find it on Apple podcasts. You can follow us there. Leave a review. You could say it’s a five star review if you want to, or another way you can help to grow the podcast is to share it with a friend. It’s been my great honor to speak with you this week, and I look forward to seeing you next week. Remember, it’s your life. Make it a great one.

Thanks for listening to this episode of the Unlock Your Life podcast. If you want more information on how you can transform your life and do it quickly, visit loriaharris.com. See it on the next episode of the Unlock Your Life podcast.

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Unlock Your Life | Does Your Vocation Light You Up?

Ep #44: Does Your Vocation Light You Up?

Unlock Your Life | Does Your Vocation Light You Up?When you think of the work you do in the world, does it light you up? Is your vocation a way for you to serve and be of service in a way that is fulfilling to your soul? Vocation doesn’t have to be the work you do in exchange for money, or in the day-to-day survival of life. It could be your creative expression, or it could be both. You get to decide.

It’s a beautiful thing when the work we do, the place where we spend the lion’s share of our daily hours feels like a calling. When our vocation is something we feel compelled to do, when it feels like the reason that we are called into the world to serve, we do it joyfully. And we love the life we live.

In this episode, I’m encouraging you to consider your creative calling, whether you are doing it in your life right now, and sharing some tips to help you become the person who is loving your life. Learn the importance of kinship, and how to start loving your vocation and the work you do in the world.

If you would like some help with figuring out how to listen to your intuition and show up and serve in the world, I’d love to help! I can help you create a vision for a life that you absolutely love living. Click here to arrange a session with me.

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What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • The benefits of being in work that allows you to serve and improve things for others.
  • How to use your calendar to support you to live a life you truly love.
  • The four quadrants I work with most of my clients in.
  • What vocation is and how to contemplate what it means for you in your life.
  • The benefits of coming from a place of kinship and connection in your service.
  • How to consider what you can do to lift up your day-to-day experience.

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It’s the first week of May, and May 1 is traditionally May Day, International Workers’ Day. It’s one of those holidays that I learned about when I was in the third grade, and the image of May Day stuck with me over the years. This week we’re going to talk about the area of our life called vocation, that place in our life where we are called to work. Let’s get going.

Welcome to the Unlock Your Life podcast, a podcast for highly successful visionary women who want more out of life. If you feel that ache of unfulfillment in your soul, you’re in the right place sis. Join life mastery consultant Lori A. Harris as she teaches you how to stop living for others and finally put yourself first. Let’s dive into today’s show.

So, when I was in third grade, I had a teacher named Mrs. Domingo, and she taught us about May Day. May Day is May 1st, and it’s International Workers’ Day. We were taught how to create a May Day pole, which was a pull that we decorated, and then we could dance around the May Day pole. We also made May Day baskets. But the image of celebrating work and one’s work never really left me.

As a coach, you know, people are invited to niche down, to concentrate on one area of life. That’s not really what I do in my work. In my work, I work with people in four areas, quadrants, domains. Health, relationships, vocation, time and money freedom.

When we talk about vocation, vocation the word comes from the Latin root, to call. Vocare. It’s a beautiful thing when the work that we do, when we spend the lion’s share of our daily awake hours doing the work is a beautiful thing. When that work does feel like a calling, and advocation is something that we feel compelled to do that we do joyfully. That we are called into the world to serve.

Now, since it is an area of life where we are going to spend a great deal of our time, it’s a beautiful thing when it’s something that you love to do. So at this moment, I invite you to think about the work that you’re doing.

Vocation doesn’t have to be the work that you do in exchange for money for the day to day survival of life. It could be your creative expression. It could be your creative expression, and the work that you do for day to day existence here in the world. You get to decide. But when we look at those four quadrants of life—health, relationship, time and money freedom, and vocare. When we put them all together, that’s what comprises our whole life.

So take a moment with me at this time to consider your work, the work. When you think of the work that you are doing in the world, this will light you up. Is that a way for you to serve and to be of service in a way that’s fulfilling to your soul? Are you the kind of person that when you think of work, it brings an area of pride and satisfaction to your life?

Or when you think about your work, perhaps you’re noticing that is a little less satisfying than might have been in earlier years. Are you finding that it does not bring you joy? That you don’t look forward to going to work or the service that you provide? When you think about your work on a scale from one to five, one being not very satisfying at all and five being extraordinarily satisfying, where do you fall? What feels good to you?

This is an opportunity for you to really dive in and dive deep and think about what kind of life it is that you want to be living. What are you willing to do to invest in being the kind of person that is living life that’s satisfying to you a regular and repeated basis?

So, are you a person who’s stuck or feels stuck doing a job that you don’t like? Or do you have work that you like, but you work too many hours and you would love to have more freedom. More freedom to be with your family. More freedom to attend to other things outside of the work that light you up. Do you dread going to work every day? Or are you a person that has had a lot of success, and you’re still curious to see, “Well, how far can I go? How far will this work take me? How much can I achieve?”

When you look at the work, are you involved in work that lights you up? That is, in fact, a response to a calling that allows you to light up an area of your life and your heart and your brain that is exciting to you. That is a great expression of who you are and who you want to be. Think about the work.

Now many of the people that are in my community that listen to the podcast are people who love to be in service. Love to give, give of themselves, and  have their work have meaning because it makes life better for someone else. If that’s you, I invite you to be reminded what it means to be in service.

So as you think about being of service and doing work that is a service to the community or particular community specifically. I’ll never forget a young woman I worked with that had been exposed to human trafficking. When invited to comment on what was the most important thing that she wanted people to know, she said, “Don’t pity me.” I never forgot it. I think it’s a very powerful message.

That when we find ourself in work that allows us to serve, and in an effort to make things better for others come from a place of kinship and support rather than othering people or trying to be a giver from a place of I’m up here, you’re down there. But when possible, when you can keep it top of mind, try our best to be a person that comes from a place of kinship.

That I don’t know better than you, but I would love to make an offer to you of a way that one might approach this thing called life. Here is an array of options for you, and I think you’re wonderful. These are some things that I think you might consider that could make life for you even better.

So when we can come from a place of kinship and connection in our service rather than up high serving down low but coming from a place of true look you in the eye partnership on equal footing, sometimes our messages of support can land and be received on soft and fertile ground when we’re coming from a place of equanimity and equality is something to consider.

So when you think about vocation, consider what is your creative calling? Is it something that truly lights you up and that you’re responding to on a regular and repeated basis? Is it in fact something that you do in exchange for money in the day to day survival of life? Or is it something completely different? There’s something I do for work, and my vocation is something completely different. And never the two come together because I want to keep them separate. That’s one way to approach the call, vocare, vocation.

So make a decision in that area of your life. When you do that life assessment of vocation satisfaction on scale from one to five, one being not very satisfied at all, and five being very, very satisfied, consider what are the things you might be willing and able to do to lift up your day to day experience? Want to have a better experience in the work? Well, how might we do that?

Well, it starts with how we start anything. We start with a vision. Stop, pause, reflect, and reduce to writing the thing that you most want in your area of work. Describe the kind of work you would love to be doing. What does it feel like? What are your colleagues like? How often are you going into an office? Are you going into an office at all? Describe your ideal, wonderful, beautiful work situation? Get it down on writing.

And then you can get about the business of becoming the person that’s living that life. Be the person who is. As you make an effort to go toward that life, to make your work a hell yes versus ugh, okay. When we’re going to where to hell yes, what does that look like?

Well, in the work that you’re already doing, use your calendar as a tool to support you in the life that you actually want to be living. Look at your week, each week on a Sunday evening, and plan for what you want your week to look like. Use your calendar as a roadmap throughout the week to get you where you want to go.

The next thing you can do is now that you’ve reduced it to arriving, you’re using your calendar as your roadmap. These are two additional things to support you physically in being the person who’s living that life. First, make sure that you are each day getting some form of physical activity. Be it a brief walk or stretch or a little bit of yoga but honor your body for the work that it is able to do for you in supporting you in doing all the work. And it will lift your physical spirit and your mental spirit so that you can come to your work with greater ease and greater clarity.

Finally, rest. Never underestimate the power of rest. When you feel as though there’s lots of work to be done and you’re tempted to go into a state of overwhelm. While it can be tempting to push, push, push through, you will find that if you rest, you can come to the work with a greater freshness and greater ease and become a more effective worker.

So in the area of vocare, when you think about your work, is it something that lights you up? Is it a calling? Is it something that allows you to express yourself in a creative mode? Does it allow you to serve in a way that is in alignment with your core values? Are you serving from a place of equanimity and equality? Or are you looking from a top down point of view? What can you do from a place of kinship?

Get your vision for work in writing, and then work from that place of being the person that is. Your calendar is your roadmap. What you need most is daily movement and daily rest. These are the things that will make your vocare a place of safety and even wonder.

Thanks for listening. You’ve been listening to the Unlock Your Life podcast. This has been episode 44, and we’re going into the springtime celebrating May. With May Day, we’re reminded of the work and hopefully you’re bringing great joy and vitality to your work. If you enjoyed this episode of the podcast, please share it with a friend. You can find us anywhere you listen to podcast. It is available on Apple podcast where you can follow, rate, and review the show. Well, it’s your life. Make it a great one.

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