So we have these six mental faculties, and one of them is imagination. Now, if we can use our imagination to work ourselves up into a frenzy and abuse ourselves with worry, what else can we do imagination? Well, my friends, imagination is the fuel that makes the world go round. It is the fire of innovation. Imagination is the stuff that can light up our lives. Let’s get in touch with our imagination. Let’s get going.

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You know, our imaginations are the stuff of wonder. When we’re children, we easily tap into our imagination and come up with images and ideas of things that we would love to do, have, and experience. Some of us have imaginary friends. Some of us have wild imaginary playdates and do things in our minds that trigger joy and excitement and exploration.

As we get older, as adults, we’re told to tap that down, to be realistic, to get serious, to stop daydreaming. We are discouraged from using our imagination and invited into the world of what the adults in our lives called reality. The truth is that we can forge a relationship with our thoughts and our imagination that will help us create a life that we love in our physical reality, all coming from our imagination.

Our imagination is gonna call us forth to do three things. First it’s going to want us to be courageous. Next it’s going to want us to be curious. Finally our imagination is going to call us forth to exercise compassion. We have to be kind to ourselves in order to harness the power of our imagination. We have to be compassionate with ourselves in order to do things that might feel uneasy, to do things when we might feel like we might make a mistake, to get back up after we have made a mistake.

Compassion reminds us to cultivate empathy for ourselves and others because we want to get out of negative patterns that keep us from living a life that we love living. Each day is a new day. So we want to engage in being excited about our lives and do the things that light us up from day to day, moment by moment. We have but one life. Let’s go live it.

So if you find your imagination has compelled you to pursue something new, brand new, some new expression of yourself and is causing a little bit of anxiety, first know this is good news. This is to be celebrated. It indicates that you are in a place of growth. You are doing that thing that you’ve never done before. So we always want to be growing.

So if you’re experiencing a little bit of fear, a little bit of anxiety, tell yourself this is a good sign. This means I’m growing. So we’re going towards our discomfort. We’re moving outside our comfort zone, and that’s where the courage comes in.

A couple of weeks ago we talked about the word should and being kind to ourselves in others when we decide about other people’s behaviors and allowing things to be what they are. Another problem with the word should is it often holds us back, holds us back from pursuing the things of our imagination, holds us back and tells us I should do x, y, or z because that’s what’s expected of me. That’s what’s prudent. That’s what everyone else is doing. That’s what’s rational.

But imagination sometimes takes you outside of what could appear irrational to other people, but it’s a calling calling you forth from with deep inside your belly. So when you’re following your own inner calling, it’s going to require some courage. It’s going to require to go beyond your comfort zone. It’s going to require curiosity to see hm, where might this lead me? I’m curious. I’m willing to give it a try. Again, it’s gonna require some self-compassion.

So this month we’re talking about cleaning up. We’re cleaning up old ways of thinking. We’re cleaning up old ways of being. We’re cleaning up our language and allowing ourselves to practice curiosity, practice imagination, practice taking action and marrying those actions with our heart’s desires. So what would you love? What would you love to be, do, have, or create? Go with courage, curiosity, and compassion. Allow yourself to soar.

So here’s an exercise for you. This is what I would love for you to do. I want you to take out a small piece of paper, a post-it, and index card. I want you to take that out and write three times in your life when you followed your gut, when you allowed yourself to imagine a bigger version of yourself and did the thing even though it was not apparent that it was going to be successful. Even though you were a little bit afraid. Even though you didn’t know how to predict the result.

Write down one, two, three times in your life when you successfully pursued something that started first in your imagination. Write that down and keep it in your wallet. Keep it so you remind yourself that this is the currency that matters. I have been successful before, and I will be successful again. The only currency that matters is this thing called my life. I’m willing to do the things that light me up using my imagination to move this thing called life forward. I do it with grace. I do it with courage. I do it with curiosity, and I do it with a dose of self-compassion.

This has been episode 42 of the ­Unlock Your Life podcast. I’m your host Lori Harris. I love that you’re listening to the podcast. If you’ve enjoyed it, I’d love it if you would share it with a friend. You can go to Apple podcast rate, follow, and review the show. It doesn’t have to be a five star review, but five star reviews are always accepted. In the future, remember, it’s your life. Make it a great one.

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Hey y’all. It’s springtime, and it’s the great time of year to think about renewal, impermanence, change, and giving ourselves a fresh start. Today we’re gonna talk about our thoughts and worries. Worrying doesn’t mean you care. Let’s get going.

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So this springtime, wouldn’t you love to let go of worry? What is worry? Worry is defined as a verb to give way to anxiety, unease, allow ones mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles.

When I was little, or younger, I thought that worrying meant that you cared. So if there was trouble or a difficulty happening I thought that I should be able to tell by looking at another person that they cared. There was something about their countenance, the way they held their facial expressions, that indicated to me that they knew that there was a situation going on, and they were thinking about it and that they cared.

It’s really backwards thinking. One, you can’t really tell what another person is internally thinking, what they’re processing, and how they’re dealing with any given situation by their outside appearance. Two, that just may not be their way of handling a difficulty, and that doesn’t make their way wrong. Three, worrying simply doesn’t mean that you care. One can care about a situation without giving way to unnecessary anxiety and discontent.

So what do we do with the things that are going through our minds and causing us concern? Causing us to dwell upon this situation and how it might impact us in the future.

So the truth is that we’re gonna have some thoughts, and those thoughts may give way to some difficulties internally, which can have an impact on our psychological body as well. The main reason I want us as listeners and people in our community not to worry is it makes it difficult to come up with creative solutions. There are going to be circumstances, situations, conditions that we will color as problems. If we are to come up with a good creative solution, worry slows down the process if not creates an entire block to it altogether.

I’m reminded that not all worry is negative. Some worry allows us to imagine into the future and not do it in a toxic way, but to imagine into the future which allows us to exercise foresight and imagines situations and setbacks and challenges and then make a place.  So if we can characterize our thoughts as exercise and forethought rather than worry then we can effectuate a better state of being in the moment and come up with effective problem solving skills.

So as a lawyer, it’s interesting because people come into your office. They describe a set of circumstances, a set of facts, and they may not know what that comes to as a cause of action. They may not be able to put it together and say, “This is what I want from you. I want to sue, or I want you to defend me. Or I want you to draft a contract or whatever.”

It’s the job of the lawyer to listen to the facts described to us as a lawyer, and then interpret and glean from the client what is the goal? What is it that they really want? To try to come up with a solution that will get the client what they want.

However, there’s an aspect of legal practice that involves a fair amount of trying to look into the future and anticipate problems. Not just the client that the problem has walked into the office with, but looking down the road and saying, “How can I protect my client in this moment and in the future moments?”

So if you’re in a relationship with someone who’s actively practicing law, it can be very difficult because rarely is a lawyer mind only thinking about this moment. So once I realized that my lawyer mind would go off into the future then I also noticed that it really went into the future with positive plans. It often was the sky is falling. Everything’s gonna go terrible. We’re gonna be in big trouble. That’s kind of my default that I have to work towards not going there.

So if worry has a role in our life where it tries to signal to us places off in the future that could be problematic, that could be a threat to our safety, and it allows us to come up with creative solutions in anticipation of something that’s a real possibility.

So the first question to check in with yourself is is this concern a real possibility? Second, is there any productive action I can take right now? Action is going to quell anxiety. Action is going to shift worry. So whenever you find yourself in a situation where your brain is churning and considering possibilities that amount to worry, check into yourself. Is this just a toxic thing that’s taking me to crazy pants? Or is this something that’s a real possibility?

If it is a real possibility? What are also some possibilities or option for dealing with it? A productive action that I can do in the future to deal with the situation should it arise?

Another thing we can do when we find ourselves caught in a thought that causes us anxiety is to check in and consider, “Well, what if it all worked out?” We have the catastrophized versus. Let’s consider what if it all worked out. What might that look like? How might that feel? What would I love about that? How might I effectuate that scenario? How might I make that good outcome come about?

So if you find yourself in a thought loop that can be categorized as worry, first check in. Is it a real possibility? Two, is there something that I can do that creates an action playout to absolve that feeling of worry? Get into action, and that will help.

Second is just to inquire. Is there another way to look at  it? What if it all worked out? Play that thought out in your mind. Paint a picture of that resolution. Then the third resolution or coping mechanism that I want to suggest to you is called staring back at your thoughts.

So you’ll notice sometimes when we have a thought and it’s a negative thought, we can get into a spiral and start thinking about all the ways that it could go wrong, and it happens very, very quickly. So if you can train yourself to pause and just look at it, stare back at your thought. So when you notice that a thought has arisen, you can just watch it. Look at it, and think hm, where did that thought come from? Then investigate the nature of the thought and see if that seems accurate. Is it solid? Is it reliable?

You don’t want to try to block the thought. Just let it come up and look at it, and then consider it. Then you will often find and likely find that it will go away, but the most important thing is that you’ve used your power of awareness to pause yourself. To stop yourself from going down a negative thought spiral. Just by stopping and looking at the thought.

So you paused a potential thought spiral, and that’s going to take some element of practice. Some element of mindfulness, which is why we engage in mindfulness on a regular and repeated basis so that when we are in crisis, we have that tool to rely upon, and we can call upon it with more ease, grace, and efficiency.

So it’s springtime, and we are monitoring our thoughts. We’re cleaning up, and we’re starting first within. We remind ourselves that everything is impermanent, everything changes, nothing stays the same, and springtime is a great reminder of that. With that we are monitoring our thoughts for worry. Are we worrying?

If so, is it a toxic unhelpful kind of worry? If not then we want to check in with ourselves by asking is this a possibility. Is it a real possibility? What are possible action steps I can take to avoid this thing that has come up to cause me concern. Action beats anxiety over and over again.

Second, we can offer ourselves another way to look at the situation. Another way to interpret it. It’s a replacement thought of sorts. So you can check that out. Finally we can stare down the thought. We simply look at it, interrogate it, where does that thought come from? Why do I think that?

Then by doing so, actively engaging with the thought, we stop ourselves from going down the path of thought spiral that will send us in a direction that will be more difficult to get out of. Give ourselves the gift of feeling good. Feeling good in our body regardless of outside circumstances.

So you’ve done it. You’ve reached the end of another episode of the Unlock Your Life podcast. This was episode number 41. I’m your host Lori Harris. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, I’d love it if you would offer a review. You can find us at Apple podcast or anywhere you listen to podcasts. Stop, follow, rate, and review the show. It doesn’t have to be a five star review, but I would love it if it was. More importantly, I want to hear from you as to what we can do to make this show even better. Thanks for listening and remember, it’s your life. Make it a great one.

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