Allow me to tell you a story.
A woman hired an architect to design her dream home. She was excited, ready to build, and had the budget to make it happen.
At their first meeting, the architect asked, “What do you want your house to look like?”
“I want a beautiful home,” she said. “Something that makes me happy. A place where I feel good.”
The architect paused. “Okay, but can you be more specific? How many bedrooms? What style? Open floor plan or traditional? What materials do you want?”
“I don’t know,” the woman said. “I just want it to feel right. Can’t you just… figure it out?”
“I can’t design your dream home without knowing what you actually want,” the architect explained. “I need details. I need specifics. I need you to tell me exactly what you’re envisioning.”
The woman got frustrated. “But what if I commit to a design and then I don’t like it? What if it doesn’t work out the way I imagine? I want to see it first, THEN I’ll tell you if it’s what I want.”
The architect shook his head. “That’s not how this works. You have to decide what you want, commit to the plan, and THEN we can build it. I can’t build your dream house if you won’t tell me what it looks like.”
They went back and forth. The woman wanted guarantees before committing. The architect needed commitment before he could create anything.
Eventually, frustrated, the woman left. She never got her dream home.
Sound familiar?
This Is How Most People Approach Their Dreams
They want the result without the specificity. They want the guarantee before the commitment. They want to see it work before they fully invest.
And then they wonder why nothing changes.
Here’s the truth: There are two determining factors for whether your dream will actually happen.
Not luck. Not timing. Not whether the universe is feeling generous that day.
Two specific factors—and you control both of them.
Factor 1: Get Ridiculously Specific About What You Want
You can have any life you want. But you have to know what “want” actually means.
“I want to be happy” is not a plan. It’s a wish.
“I want a good life” is not a blueprint. It’s a vague hope.
If you asked a contractor to build you “a happy house,” they’d look at you like you’d lost your mind. They can’t build from feelings. They need specifics.
Same with your dreams.
Life—call it the Universe, God, Source, whatever resonates—can’t deliver on vague requests. “I want more” isn’t enough. “I want to feel fulfilled” doesn’t give you a destination.
You need clarity. Crystal-clear, no-room-for-confusion clarity.
Instead of: “I want to be successful”
Try: “I want to lead a team of 10, make $150K, work remotely three days a week, and have Fridays off”
Instead of: “I want better relationships”
Try: “I want a partner who values communication, supports my career, shares my love of travel, and makes me laugh”
Instead of: “I want to feel more fulfilled”
Try: “I want to spend 10 hours a week creating art, teach workshops twice a month, and build a community of like-minded women”
See the difference?
Specificity activates your dreams. Vagueness keeps them stuck in the realm of “someday.”
The clearer you are about what you want, the easier it is to recognize the opportunities, resources, and people who can help you build it.
Your work: Get specific. Write it down. Describe it in detail. What does your dream look like? What does it feel like? What are you doing? Who are you with? Where are you?
Be the architect of your own life. Draw the blueprint.
Factor 2: Put Your Full Self Behind It (No Hedging)
Here’s where most people stall.
They get clear on what they want—and then they hold back.
“But what if it doesn’t work out?”
“What if I fail?”
“What if I look stupid?”
“What if I commit and then change my mind?”
So they keep one foot out the door. They say they want the dream, but they won’t fully commit to it.
They want to see proof before they invest. They want guarantees before they take risks. They want to know exactly how it’s all going to work out before they put their name on it.
But that’s not how dreams work.
You don’t get the result first and THEN commit. You commit first, and THEN the doors start opening.
Think about it: When you sign a contract to buy a house, you don’t get to move in first and THEN decide if you want to commit. You commit, THEN you get the keys.
When you say “I do” in a marriage, you don’t get a trial period to see if it works out first. You commit, THEN you build the relationship.
Your dreams work the same way.
You have to put your full self behind them. Not 50%. Not “I’ll try and see what happens.” Full commitment.
This doesn’t mean blind faith or ignoring reality. It means:
✓ Taking aligned action even when you’re scared
✓ Investing time, energy, and resources into your dream
✓ Telling people about it (not keeping it secret in case you fail)
✓ Making decisions that support your dream, not undermine it
✓ Showing up consistently, not just when you feel motivated
When you commit fully—when you sign your name to your dream—something shifts.
Resources start showing up. The right people enter your life. Opportunities you couldn’t have predicted appear. Doors you didn’t even know existed open.
Not because of magic or manifestation woo-woo, but because:
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You’re paying attention. When you’re committed, you notice opportunities you would’ve missed before.
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You’re taking action. Commitment leads to consistent action, which creates momentum.
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You’re signaling to others. When people see you’re serious, they want to support you. They refer you. They invest in you. They open doors.
But none of that happens when you’re hedging your bets and keeping one foot out the door.
The Two Questions That Determine Everything
So here’s what it comes down to:
Question 1: What do you actually want?
Not what sounds good. Not what you think you should want. Not what would impress other people.
What do YOU want? Get specific. Get clear. Get honest.
Question 2: Are you willing to fully commit to it?
Not “try it and see.” Not “hope it works out.” Not “I’ll commit once I have proof.”
Are you willing to put your full self behind your dream—right now, without guarantees?
If the answer to both questions is yes, your dream will happen.
Not overnight. Not without challenges. Not without moments of doubt.
But it will happen.
Because you’ve done the two things most people refuse to do: You’ve gotten specific about what you want, and you’ve committed to it fully.
Your Move
Here’s what I want you to do this week:
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Get specific. Write down exactly what you want. Not vague wishes—detailed descriptions. If you can’t describe it clearly, you can’t build it.
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Commit fully. Pick one action that demonstrates you’re all in. Tell someone about your dream. Invest money in it. Block time on your calendar. Make a decision that supports it.
Stop waiting for proof before you commit. Stop hedging your bets.
Put your name on it. Sign the check. Draw the blueprint.
Because sis, your dream is waiting for you to get clear and go all in.
What are you waiting for?
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